I've been thinking about Brayden's biological mother for the past few weeks. Unfortunately, I did not get to meet her, and unless she contacts the attorney and requests to meet with us, I don't know if we ever will.
I have two pictures and a few documents with her signature. That's it.
The family court papers dedicate a small paragraph to her explanation for placing her child for adoption. That's it.
What will I tell this baby...who will one day be a curious toddler...then an wondering boy...then a searching teenager...and then...
I can't change the circumstances surrounding his beginnings, but I refuse to ignore them, either. His life did not begin October 19th when he arrived by plane to our family. He is genetically part of a long history of Asian and Hispanic people, and we celebrate his cultural heritage.
We will talk about her frequently. He will know he can ask any question he needs answered.
I have made a card with the picture of Olivia holding Brayden at the first DNA test; no one else has seen her. He needs a special piece of his story that is reserved just for him; he can choose to share it with others or not.
It may be all he ever has of her.
2 comments:
Oh Sabrina, I have never seen your blog before today and I am crying with the first post. I totaly agree with every word and am so happy that you chose to love Olivia rather than slight her as some AP's would. I am the blessed mom of 5 children that 10 other parents, and countless family members could not care for...yet we lift our 'other mothers' high in prayers...we celebrate their lives and choices for the children they loved enough to place with us. We are ever thanful for them. I hope many read your post and embrace it. It is the only way these kids can survive and feel proud of the families left behind for them. It is up to us and you have got this RIGHT!
Betsy Emanuel
home now with Emily Belle
http://betsyleslie.blogspot.com
Thank you for your kind words, Betsy. I refuse to believe that she made her decision lightly. I just know inside me that she struggled through bitter tears to see him go.
Five...wow! I really hope GT and the US can work thorugh their issues so more children can find forever homes.
Congrats on lovely Miss EB! She is an absolute darling!
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